Friday, February 11, 2011

The Secret to Romance

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I love February, the month of hearts, flowers and romance

Romance is defined by our personal expectations.  Definitions vary from person to person and is usually not the same for a man and a woman. 
In this post, I will share with you my personal journey of romance.


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Happy Pink Saturday by the way! You can enjoy lots of romantic pinks at this great party hosted by Ms. Beverly at How Sweet the Sound!


My husband and I teach a young marrieds Sunday School class and conduct marriage seminars. In split sessions, I always let the girls in on the BIGGEST SECRET for ROMANCE.


So here it is.

Ready?


He can't read your mind.  
You already knew that didn't you?  But if we know this, why do we (including myself) expect differently? 

Here's the key to using the secret weapon. 
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Tell him what you expect.   

The greatest source of disappointment is unmet expectations. We expect, don't receive and then become disappointed.  Don't buy into that lie of "if I have to tell him, then it will mean nothing."  Have you tried it?

Here's the story of how I learned to use the key.

I'm the biggest sap for romance.  My hubby is the practical type.  But that does not stop this girl from dreaming.  You've probably seen my glasses by now.
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Before we married, I fantasized about how romantic the wedding day would be.  It would start with a knock on the door and there awaiting would be a special gift from my beloved. You've seen it on the movies or read it in a book.  After all, this is where we get most of our crazy expectations.  Most men do not read these books or watch these movies, except when forced, so they are kind of out of the loop. Doc  is was out of the loop.

He's not a romantic, at least not the storybook kind.  He's Dr. Consistent.  I lovingly embrace that trait preferring daily kindness and consideration over expensive gifts. 

Gifts are icing on the cake. 

I want to have my cake and eat it too.
   I decided we would have THE  fairy tale day and informed Doc. As always, he agreed to my whimsy.  (Love him.) I explain this expectation idea to which he replies, "So what do you want?"   I don't know!  Don't make me spell that out too.  Just give me a gift.  
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Oh for shame!  Did I ask for a gift?  You bet your little storybook heart! 

A few days before the wedding, we were out buying last minute things on a zapped budget.  As we walked by the perfume counter,  I casually mentioned, "Ralph Lauren perfume smells so good but I am not spending anything else."  It seemed frivolous when we had out of town guests coming, dinners to host, loose ends to tie up and  most of all, our dream honeymoon coming up. 
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Fast forward to the blissful day.  The girls and I were getting ready when there was a knock at the door.  A card was peeking out from under the door.  We all froze and stood at attention until finally someone decided to open the door. 

There it sat. My fantasy - in the form of a big gorgeous gift wrapped box complete with shiny pink satin ribbon and a bow.  

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 Bonus? I had an audience. 
I mean, doesn't it feel good when others see how romantic your man is? 
All eyes turned to me as I carefully opened the envelope with trembling hands, and then in a trembling voice read his handwritten, earth moving, love message inside. 
There was not a dry eye in the room.  At that point, I don't think anyone really cared what was in the box. 
He got it. 
He really got it!



I untied the satin ribbon and opened the lid. Yep, you guessed it.-a huge collection of RL Romance perfumes and lotions.  

Oh yeah, he triple got it.

 Talking about feeling special!  I know perfume is not a big ticket gift but it was priceless to me! Another light bulb moment- have realistic expectations!

I didn't dare let the girls in on my little "secret." It might have tainted the moment. 
My heart rang out, "I am marrying my soul mate, my man of romance!"


That day romance was redefined for me.  I discovered the moment was no less special than if he had done it on his own.  The longer we are married the less requests I have to make.  He knows me, knows what I want. Why?  Not because he's clairvoyant but because I am teaching him.  Never demanding, never expecting.  Communication works.  That's all I can say ladies.  It works.


Maybe you are blessed to be married to Dr. Romance.  Please do not wave it in the face of any Mrs. Consistent.  We are  thrilled that our man loves us enough to give us exactly what we want, even when we have to ask for it.  The real blessing is having a man who wants to please you.  
If you ask me, it's a win-win.
May your heart be filled with romance and your mind be filled with reasonable expectations.

102 comments:

Cindy Lew's Studio said...

Good Morning, The pictures are beautiful and how awesome that you teach a class like that. Have a wonderful weekend! Warm Regards, CindyLew

Julie Harward said...

I loved this post...and I so agree...and I do have a man that loves to please me...life is good! ;D

Genie -- Paris and Beyond said...

Tammy, what a beautifully told story of real romance... I think that you are blessed with Dr. Consistent!

Bises,
Genie

Donna said...

What a sweet story! I wish that we had taken your class before we got married! Sounds like I need to ask for some flowers for Valentine's Day:) Have a great weekend!!

Life In The Thrifty Lane said...

What a beautiful post! Thanks for stopping by, I'm your newest follower. Have a great weekend, Veronica

Southwest Cottage Designs said...

That is a beautiful love story. I joined you and the girls back in the room with no dry eyes! :)
Have a sweet day!

Donnie said...

I learned a looooong time ago to just tell Don what I want/need. It sure saves time for more fun things. To this day he tells everyone he gives me the checkbook for gifts and he does. That's the way he handles it and that's okay with me. I have trained my sons, now grown, to think/ask/listen to what their wives are saying then act accordingly. Lovely post.

Susan said...

So beautiful and TRUE!
- Susan

Honey at 2805 said...

Your post is indeed a love story and the lesson is one of communication. We are so fortunate to have learned these communication skills early. I truly enjoyed your beautiful story.

I am delighted with the sweet comment you left me and that you have become a friend and follower. I have happily followed you for quite a while. Happy Valentines!

Pamela said...

Beautiful post Tammy and I agree with everything!
Men have to be told. My husband always buys me the most romantic cards for every occasion. They are kept in my lovely toile box...18yrs worth.
I love your photos...so romantic!!
Pamela :)

Kathleen said...

That's a beautiful post with ♥ sentiments. I will be married 41 yrs in May. I was a child bride! :)
Happy ♥ Day. Thanks for following, I have done the same! :)

Kelly said...

I so so so LOVE (word of the month!) this post. Maybe b/c it all seems very relevant....being that I've only been married 8 months! The read your mind thing? Already learning that the hard way! ;)

Kelly

Amy @MaisonDecor said...

i totally agree with you Tammy! I learn to not have expectations, but if there is something that is important to me I share it quite directly! A simple and effective way for a good result. Loved this post.

Vicki @ Curly Willow said...

Just sent this post to my daughter, whose getting married in Sept. Thanks! You nailed it!!

LDH said...

Hi Tammy,

So nice to meet you and visit your lovely blog. I have enjoyed perusing many of your posts!

Thank you for stopping by my place and leaving your comment!
Kindly, Lorraine

Kelsie From Our Country Home said...

This is such a lovely post and a great handy tip for husband training...I wish mine would train easily...I have even tried putting flowers on the shopping list when I send him to the store, alas he just does not get it lol.

Hope you have a wonderful and blessed weekend
Kelsie

Ann from On Sutton Place said...

Hi Tammy...it took me several years but I finally figured out that my husband was not a mind reader. If I spell things out both of us are much happier! Great post.

lvroftiques said...

Awww what a sweet story! I have a Mr. consistent too and I wouldn't trade him for all the Dr. Romances in the world. Vanna

Shirley said...

My Mr. Romance is just the best too! Married 39 yrs. this month he know's--- oh yes, he knows..together forever and he still buys that special something that say's he still has me in his heart..
But we both know it's the every day of living life and respecting one another that is the real secret to lasting love!
We are blessed.
Yours Sincerely,
Shirley

ramsam said...

SO great! I am so much happier now that I speak more than I dream ! My guy never disappoints when I just come out and TELL him what I need!

Brayton Homestead Interiors said...

Hi new Friend! love your beatiful blog too! so glad I came by...

Karen

⚜ ↁℯℬℬᴵℰ⚜ said...

Sweet! I love perfume...so my Man can never go wrong with it.

La Vie Quotidienne said...

What a lovely story and what good advise.(-: Have a very romantic Valentine's Day!

Wendy said...

Beautiful post! You are so true, I have learned he can't read my mind or I read his...communication is the key....and a little romance ;)

Mallorie said...

I just love your blog, and this post!!! :-) Ralph Lauren Romance is my perfume as well...I LOVE IT!!! :-) Thank you so much for your sweet comment on my blog!!! I'm your newest follower!

I find it funny that you're a TX girl in GA....my Fiance is a GA boy living in TX now!!! :) Small world!!! He's from deep south GA

Happy Friday!

Gabriela Delworth said...

Happy Pink Saturday!

What a fabulous post, I am in love with that old book...


~ Gabriela ~

Cindy Adkins said...

Happy Pink Saturday!!! AND Happy Valentine's Day! You are so lucky to be in love--it is the greatest thing on earth!!!
XO

Along A Widowed Road said...

Ok my blog buddy I got teary eyed reading your post.
What a beautiful way for the hubs to start the beginning of your married life. Wow, what a guy.

Have a great weekend!

Viola

Marydon said...

Are we talking about MY DH? Chuckle!

What a darling fabulous story, filled with lots of wonderful advice ... LUCKY YOU, so glad you got what you desired.

Happy Valentine's PS weekend ~
TTFN ~
Marydon

sueskitchen said...

Great post and such very good advice. I told my daughters the very same thing about communication. Happy Valentines Day!

Linda (More Fun Less Laundry) said...

The real important thing is that he was LISTENING to you! What more could a girl want in her prince? Linda

NanE said...

Hi Tammy, thanks for visiting my blog and leaving such a sweet comment! I really enjoyed your post today, and yes, I'm guilty too, even after almost 27 years of "assuming" he knows what I am thinking. Have a wonderful weekend, and a Happy Valentines Day! Nan

Mel said...

Awe that's so sweet the story of your love...I like the old book and thanks for following Mel's Cabin...I look forward to hearing from you again.

Francie...The Scented Cottage Studio said...

Happy Pink Saturday and hope you have a Valentines day filled with romance ... you've give very good advice. I always tell my Sweetie what to get me and we are always both so pleased :))
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Moogie said...

Super post. I'm your newest follower. http://moogieland.blogspot.com/

Faye said...

Hi Tammy,
I love the old book with the flowers at the top. Thanks so much for stopping by my blog! I'm your newest follower.

Faye
(wildrosevintage)

Sherry said...

What great advice Tammy. So true! I guess I am a very lucky girl with my husband, he listens, he wants to know, and he is romantic! The guy is a winner!! Have a wonderful Valentine's Day with your wonderful husband. Thanks for the romantic post.
Sherry

Sarah said...

Sweet story! I'm fortunate to be married to a man that gets it. He listens and watches and surprises me with gifts when I least expect it.
Thanks for sharing your story.
Happy Valentine's Day!

Sares said...

What a great post! Practical and romantic all at the same time. I am sure the couples you counsel really appreciate your insights and wisdom. Happy Pink Saturday and have a beautiful Valentine's Day!

racheld said...

Oh, my GOSH!!! I'd just commented to DH yesterday that "today's probably the day that the perfume and the snowman necklace arrived in the mail." We'd met on Feb. 4, twenty-five years ago, and right after that, he'd sent me an ENVELOPE with one of those little roller-ball stick perfumes---Ralph Lauren (something). And a tiny gold snowman on a chain---I was from the DEEP South, and in our hours of conversation that first night I'd mentioned how much I loved snow.

Thank you SO much for dropping in at Lawn Tea. I'm just honored to have visitors I haven't met yet, and am so glad you peeked in.

(And after this winter, and the third straight week of the same six inches still on the ground---I MAY just have changed my mind about snow).

But NOT about him---he's the bring-a-rose, remember every occasion Romantic.

rachel

Jacqueline said...

Excellent advice, and don't wait around for hubby to ask you out on dates, you go ahead and be the planner and then you will both have lots of fun experiences to remember and not so many unfulfilled expectations. I guess it usually takes some time to figure these things out. I have a friend who cuts pictures out of catalogs and tapes them places he will see them so he knows what gifts she would like to "be surprised with". Whatever works. Happy Pink Saturday.

thestonerabbit said...

Yup.....you hit the nail on the head!!! Most guys just want to know what we want. . . it sure makes life a lot easier for them. . . and a lot happier for us! :) Sounds like you have a keeper. . . .so do I. I've had mine for nearly 43 years....I can't believe that we've celebrated that many Valentine's Days!

Thanks for visiting my blog....so I could find you!

Happy Valentine's Day! dana

Cindy said...

What a wonderful story, I enjoyed every minute of it. And, a great reminder, guys don't think the way we do... call me sexist, whatever... it's true. I just found your blog, and i'm enchanted...

Cindy

Holly said...

What a wonderful story! Congratulations being married to Mr. Consistent! Love your story!
Happy Pink Saturday!

Pam - diy Design Fanatic said...

You are soooooo right! I have been married to a wonderful Mr. Consistent for almost 25 years. When we were first married he never knew what to get me, so I bought him a cute mini photo album. I put in the cards from my favorite gift shops and the things I loved to look at that particular store. It made it so easy for him to buy me a gift that I always loved!

Jacalyn @ rmebathproducts.com said...

What a wonderful post and oh so true! I actually counsel many couples and tell them the same thing! Do you know how many times I hear "but s/he should know what I want/need etc. Great advice.

HPS,
Jacalyn

Heather said...

What great advice, and it works too! I was telling my husband the other day how much I love chocolate covered strawberries, and guess what he brought home today? Yes...you guessed it...4 beautifully chocolate dipped strawberries!

Manni said...

LOVE your post!!! Thanks for sharing your story and "the secret".
You're one lucky girl :)
hugs
Manni

Handy Man, Crafty Woman said...

*swoooooon*

that is a great story! :-) Love it!! My hubby bought me a nice gift for our wedding too. Off to read more of your blog...

pinkkandy said...

Happy Pink Saturday! And God Bless You...stop by Pink Sugar Castle...I'd love to hear from you.

Daphne Nicole & Lynda Cade said...

What a wonderful story, and so true.... thanks for sharing it with us! I just loved all of your beautiful photos!!! Happy Pink Saturday.
Blessings~~~ Daphne

Leslie said...

Absolutely beautiful.. a wonderful way to start this romantic weekend.. ~Leslie

Lynn@ The Vintage Nest said...

A man who wants to please you.......that pretty much says it all! FABULOUS POST HPS and Happy Valentine.

Jillian said...

Great advice! Great post! Perfect for this romantic weekend. I do have a romantic type of hubby...and I am the boring one! Yes!

:0)

Thanks so much for your kind words about my Gramma! Have a great Valentine's Day.

Jillian
Bella Rosa Antiques

Laura Ingalls Gunn said...

Oh I just love LOVE! Especially when it is PINK!

Happy Hearts Day to you and yours!

Kathleen Grace said...

So true! I have been happily married for over 30 years to the man of my dreams and, although he is romantic, I never expect him to read my mind. I can't read his either, so we know to let each other in on our hopes and dreams and what we want. It makes all the difference! Great to meet you:>)

Country Wings in Phoenix said...

Happy Pink Saturday Sweetie...
Love is in the air. I can see it in these photos. Such a gorgeous share.

I love this story, Tammy a beautiful Fairy book story. You win this week. I love it. I am so tickled that he bought you that bottle of love. Isn't that just the best memory ever? (Mine is Miracle, I love that scent for sure.)

Have a glorious weekend sweetie, and Happy Valentine's Day. Many hugs and so much love, Sherry

Melissa Miller said...

I wore RL Romance when we got married almost 12 years ago on the 2oth. Whew time really fies!

Denise@alloverroses said...

Absolutely beautiful post. So inspiring and so very true. Thank you for sharing this amazing story. Happy Pink Saturday and Happy Valentine's Day!
Denise

Tricia said...

Very nice post - and so true! Love that old book! Happy PS!

Cindy said...

Hello sweet B,
It appears that I am the last to the party, I have not been on the computer much lately. I feel really burnt out, just so tired. Tonight is our "Couple's Dinner" at a nice steak house, our Pastor has organized this, so I know it will be a time of fun and even romance.
You have hit the nail on the head, I wish to God I had never read a one of those stupid sappy lying books, ever. My dad had warned me against them, but I had to do it anyways.
Communication is definitely the key to many things in a marriage, the most fun things, too!
Love and hugs, Cindy

Angela said...

So true.

She'sSewPretty said...

What a sweet, sweet story. My hubby bought me warm gloves wrapped in a beautiful box after we first started dating. He noticed that I didn't have any and thought I should have some. (we live in California...pockets usually suffice) That was the best gift ever because it came from his heart. Your hubby sounds like a sweetie too.
Happy Pink Valentine's Day!

Karena said...

Oh so wonderful a post and so true!! I love the image of the rose colored glasses!!

We do have to ask for what we want, in a gentle way!

Oh and be sure to come and join my Amazing Giveaway from Splenderosa!

xoxo
Karena
Art by Karena

Lynn said...

This was such a important piece of wisdom and so beautifully done within the setting of your wedding day. Lovely pictures. How fine that you and your husband teach SS classes sharing these concepts. Happy Valentine's Day.

racheld said...

Thank you SO much for joining us at LAWN TEA!! I'm so delighted that you did---doubly so, because amongst all the PINKS I've visited in the past many hours, I COULD NOT think where I'd enjoyed the post about the perfume!

So glad to have you join us!!

rachel

Marina Capano said...

Hi! nice to meet you! you have a fantastic blog and I love this post! wonderful,so cute pink romantic post!
Happy Valentine's Day and Happy pink saturday!


xoxo

Marilou of Lulu's Lovlies said...

Happy Pink Saturday and thanks so much for stopping by my blog, what a wonderful blog post you did and a wonderful piece to share. Happy Valentine's Day. Blessings, Marilou xoxo

xinex said...

What a lovely and sweet post, Tammy. And such a good advice!...Christine

Ann said...

Great loving advice today. I really enjoyed your adventure to the alter. Thanks for coming by and becomming a follower. Love that perfume too.
Happy Pink Sat
Ann

Pat @ Mille Fiori Favoriti said...

It's a wonderful "secret" to know isn't it? :)Y Happy Pink Saturday and Happy Valentine's Day!
Hugs, Pat

Look in the Nook said...

What a beautiful post.
Happy Valentine's day!
ENJOY
Jany
Don't forget to "Look in the Nook".

CareyAnn said...

What a lovely post and yes i agree with all you said. If my hubby comes home with something only worth a dollar but it was something I said I liked than that one dollar item is now priceless to me. it sounds like you have a wonderful relationship. Have a very happy Valentine's Day.
Hugs,
Careyann

maiaT said...

What a beautiful Valentines post.
I love the last sentence, especially the last two words.
happy Valentines!

ShantyGirl said...

That is a wonderful story and yes the best advise young ladies can have. It was a hard lesson for me to learn! Thanks for visiting me and the follow, I am following you. Love your blog I am off to read the paris post with yummy pics below!

Tracy F. said...

What a lovely story, not just for Valentine's Day, but for any day when you're a hopeless romantic like I am. After getting married 36 years ago, I quickly "learned" to ask (nicely, of course) for jewelry! Happiest of Valentine's Days to you!

Pink Roses and Teacups said...

Hello Ms. B!

thank you for visiting my blog, and for your nice comments. I am your newest follwer also! Love your blog, and I will be visiting often.
I have the book by Sarah Ban Breathnoch. The daily inspiration book. I forget what it's called. lol! Good advice here! My husband is not romantic, but you are right about them doing little daily things that make up for it.

Hugs,
Debbie

Queen of Dreamsz said...

Hi Tammy,

What a lovely post and how true it is...so many women have not learned the art of suggestion with their man. :0) I'm married to a romantic soul...it took me 30 years to find him though. hee hee

Thanks so much for visiting with me. I will be back to see you again..you do the same.

Have a wonderful day,
Stephanie ♥

Candy said...

...and they lived happily ever after.
Sharing moments at this heart-time season. Thanks for popping in and joining my following. Hope you will enjoy each and every time you visit.
Happy HEART Blessings ;-)

Shirl said...

Hello, Happy Pink Saturday! Thank you so much for stopping by and leaving a sweet comment! Love your pink post this week.
Blessings, Shirl
Shirls Rose Cottage

Elaine said...

A wonderful post......I think I'll send it to my granddaughters.
Happy valentine week.

The Gilded Cherub said...

Tammy,
Thank you so much for stopping by my blog and leaving such a nice comment. I am so happy you found me. I'm now your newest follower... Yeah!!! Where in Ga do you live? I moved from NJ last year to Ga and now live in Athens... Its different but I just love it here, how about you? How long have you lived in Ga, do you like it here? I also wanted to say your blog is just beautiful!! I just love that pretty pink box!! I will be back often to visit. Thanks again!! Have a wonderful weekend.

Lorene

Sandra said...

I love love this post! Hubby and I have been married almost 25 years and I quickly learned that he was not a mind reader. LOL I love love perfume and my hubby can never go wrong with giving me perfume.:)
Sandra

Carol said...

I loved the post, been married for 24 years and he
still does things that are romantic and caring.

Thank you for visiting my blog and leaving a comment.

From Carol (blessed mum)

Jenny's Heart said...

I love your story, how lovely!
Happy Pink Saturday and I am following you now too.

♥ Miss Tea said...

I love the beautiful story of you and your hubby, like you, my husband is the practical type too, Thank you for sharing the secret, our 3 years marriage is still new and i'm glad i read your post and the beautiful photos, so romantic!! Happy Valentine's day!

Frenchy said...

Beautiful and following you back.
Happy Valentines day !

Carol at Serendipity said...

What a lovely post. Romance truly is a wonderful thing. You made many important posts.

Happy Pink Saturday and Happy Valentine's Day.

Thank you for stopping by.

Carol

Lynn said...

Hi, Thank you for visiting my blog and leaving a lovely comment. I was looking at your previous posts and have to say, I just love your chalkboard! That is one of most romantic chalkboards I have ever seen. Beautiful.

Kathy said...

This is so very sweet - you are right - you have to let them know and show your appreciation!
Hope you have a great day,
Kathy

liberal sprinkles said...

Hi Tammy, thanks for visiting my blog to see my very first Pink Saturday contribution. I really enjoyed reading your post. I'm not married but I think your advice would work with our relationships with friends and family too. Wishing you a beautiful and romantic Valentine's!

Lynn's Little Cottage said...

GREAT post! I also love your quote in regards to being content. Thanks for stopping by. I am your latest follower. Lynn

Janean said...

absolutely great post!!!!

good secret.

fab gift!

my honey and i taught marriage class for years. yay marriage!!!!

mo said...

Hi Tammy, How true your words are. My best advice I give to anyone getting married is "agree to disagree".

This has saved my husband and I from many fights through our 21 years.

Great post Tammy!

*hugs*

Tiffanee said...

A HUGE THANKS!! I so needed that. My hubby is not the romantic type but surprises me every once in awhile and it makes my heart do flips. I just have to tell you how much it meant to me to read this post and your sweet story. Happy Valentine's day!!

Kathy said...

Wow what a beautiful blog my dear!

saltbox treasures said...

Such a great post!!! What a wonderful gift and surprise! My hubs is very romantic. I am blessed too.
~ Julie

Diann said...

Hi Tammy!
Well, I have been a little under the weather so, I have been trying to play "catch-up".
This is a wonderful post! I was so shocked to realize that Troy could not read my mind! I assumed that some magical thing occurs when you find your love and soul mate. I thought he would automatically just know what I wanted when I wanted it. At the time we were married, I was a manager and had been for almost 15 years. I was a very good manager. My staff were the best employes and I always had higher ups come in and be amazed at how well my staff worked as a team and how wonderfully they got the jobs done. Once Corporate came in and was doing management reviews. They pulled all of my staff into a room and had a conference about me. What I learned was they felt I was easy to work for me because I was very clear on what was to be done. Apparently one of my team told the corp guy that they notice that other employees in a different department were constantly being put down and yelled at by their manager because they didn't do the job the way he wanted it done. And the employee was crying after one particular episode in the breakroom and my employee sat down with her to find out what was wrong. She told him what had happened and then added. "I told him that he didn't tell me to do that. and my boss told me that I was stupid because I should have KNOWN to do that." I never once even thought that it was my employees job to "know" what I want if I didn't tell them. I truly wanted them to succeed and to feel good about their jobs and they couldn't do that if I didn't do my job correcly and give then all the tools they needed to succeed.
Troy had visited me several times at work while we were dating. He was very proud of all the positive things my employees would tell him about me.
About a year into our marriage, we had a not pleasant converation. I was upset about something Troy didn't do and he told me that he didn't know I wanted it done. I so remember thinkng to myself, "How could you NOT know? What are you stupid?" I didn't say it out loud, thank God! but, I felt it. And he knew what I was thinking. I could see it in his face and whats worse, I saw the disappointment and the sense of failure from him. He told me how empressed he was at how I worked with my employees and gave them the chance to be successful and feel good about their job. So, why wouldn't I give him the same chances to be successful at being my husband. He explained that he couldn't read my mind but, wish he could. So, I needed to be verbal in what I wanted from him and needed from him. I honestly was shocked! I really had thought he knew me so well that he could read my mind. Not to mention, I felt like if I told him what I wanted I would sound like a boss and not a spouse. He told me that is not at all what it would be like. He said that I should give him and our marriage the same courtsey to succeed as I did my employees.
So, although I still slip up and think he "should" know this or that, I try to step back and think, "did I tell him or be clear on the subject?". It is part of an ongoing skill that I struggle with but, am very aware of it and try to apply to our daily life. It definitely makes life so much easier for both of us when I do this.
Dang girl, look what you made me do...write a novel as a comment! Why can't I just write, "Good post Tammy" and leave it at that? LOL

Beverly said...

Tammy, I finally made it, and I am so glad I did. I love your post, and it is the absolute most valuable tip ever. My husband is wonderful, and he pays attention to my desires.

Happy belated Pink Saturday and Valentine's Day.♥

Beth said...

What a lovely post, Beatrice! Thanks for sharing the info, the photos, and thanks for visiting my blog.
Blessings, Beth

Sixty-Fifth Avenue said...

So very true! Love the picture of the two of you and the story!

Pamela said...

Such a sweet post and oh soooo true!!! Btw I love Romance and use to wear it all the time when The Hubster and I were dating ya know back in the day when spending $65 on perfume was not a big deal!;)